R E P U T A T I O N

 Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once it slips, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides.

Ladies, please guard your reputation with your life. If not in your personal life (although it may precede you) at work at the very least.  Nobody trusts, likes or respects a woman that has a poor reputation (this goes for men as well).

Reputation is preceded by what you say.  If you tell your colleagues details of your personal life that might create judgment (and you know everybody judges); whether good or  bad in your eyes,  it will come to hunt you eventually. Especially when there is the added effect that people do not have to see you anymore at work (i.e. they dont care what they say or who they say it to because either them, or yourself, has moved on).

This usually happens when someone in your circle of colleagues leaves for another job. This is when the real fun starts and the truth surfaces...
It was not long until a friend of mine had left her job, that people started saying "well since you are not here anymore, did you know? " or "I don't like this person" or "if you hear of anything please think of me", or my favourite best "I cant tell you this because I've got nothing to lose". Ding Ding Ding!

When at work, do it KSS style, Keep it Simple Stupid.  No need to share your most personal inner thoughts or fears and definitely no need to come to the rescue of those whom you never really spoken to. Because when you leave a job or if you are the one staying, all of the "supposed trust" you had on your colleagues is gone out the window. However, if you keep a low profile and are pleasant to everybody and not somebody's BFF, you will have played the cards right and will succeed at keeping your reputation intact. Most importantly, you will not burn any bridges with current or past employers or colleagues, and therefore your reputation will remain untouched.

In the social realm, appearances are the barometer of most of all our judgments, and you should never be misled into believing otherwise. One false slip, one awkward or sudden change in your professional appereance, can prove disastrous.

Sincerley,
A woman.